My sister and I practicing our argumentative skills :)
Argument style. We all have one, but I wonder how often we have sat back and analyzed ours.
I tend to have a very stubborn argument style. I just don't understand how people can have opinions that are different than mine?? I mean what's up with that!? I rarely am able to bring myself to give in if I feel that I am right. I know that's not healthy. I don't usually raise my voice, but sometimes I must admit that I do.
That's not very optimistic existentialist-y, is it?
When I was a little boy, I was very introverted and rarely ever stood up for myself. Sometime during my teenage years, I resolved to never be that way again, and I think that that has molded my argument style as an adult and made me more stubborn than I should be. I need to work on my stubbornness and my inability to sometimes give in.
I will say that, after the fact, after the emotions of the argument have settled, I can always look back introspectively and realize what I could have done better. I always try to learn from my mistakes. And I am a strong believer in apologizing when I am in the wrong. So even though I am a stubborn person, I will always apologize if, looking back, I know was wrong.
It may sometimes take me an hour or two though. Or sometimes a day or two. :)
What is your argument style? Are you passive? Aggressive? Stubborn? Somewhere in between? Or something else altogether?